Imperfection Unmasked: Finding Strength and Impact in Our Flawed Journeys
- The Broken & Beautiful
- Nov 17
- 3 min read
“With great power comes great responsibility.” — Spider-Man (Peter Parker)
I came to a conclusion this morning. I am not a superhero.
I enjoyed comic books as a kid and have watched several modern big-screen adaptations over the years. “Guardians of the Galaxy,” “Avengers: Endgame,” and “Logan” are probably my favorites, and The Dark Knight Trilogy was also fantastic. I’ve also really enjoyed recent series like “The Peacemaker” and “Creature Commandos.” I become immersed in such stories and love picking these characters apart. I’m fascinated with contrast betwenemies their humanity and their superpowers.
I’m just a life coach — a passionate, yet flawed one. And I don’t often critique myself with the same amount of intrigue, fairness, or grace that I do my favorite fictional characters. Most mornings, I don’t wake up feeling like rescuing myself or anyone else, for that matter. I'm imperfect. But even the most badass superheroes with the coolest superpowers have deep character flaws and specific weaknesses.
This all occurred to me this morning as I woke up frustrated with my shortcomings, drove my kids to school, and tried to look at the positive aspects of who I am. What is my value in this world when I have so much imperfection? What is my superpower and is that enough?
Empathy is my superpower.
I naturally understand and feel what people say when they confide in me. I discovered this ability one day, joined a coaching cohort to hone my skills, and have since sought opportunities to help others. This has become one of my passions in life.
At the same time, imposter syndrome has long been a thorn in my side. Progress is often hindered by guilt over past decisions and ongoing struggles. Calling myself a “life coach” feels absurd sometimes because I don’t always feel qualified. But like superheroes, life coaches don’t need to be perfect to make a difference.
The reality is that I still don’t have a consistent influx of clients. My life as a single dad means my kids’ well-being comes before my own. Sometimes, that responsibility feels too heavy to bear.
I was also recently diagnosed with ADD, which has brought frustration with who I’ve been my whole life and the new obstacles that lie ahead in learning to overcome. Despite knowing the importance of prioritizing my health, progress isn’t always easy — and that has been challenging to accept.
Here are five superheroes with character flaws similar to mine. If you’re a superhero expert, you might find some inconsistencies. If so, please provide corrections in the comments! For those who enjoy the dichotomy between superheroes and ourselves, I hope this resonates with you.
Iron Man (Tony Stark)
Known for his intelligence and charm, Tony Stark also struggles with anxiety and personal demons.
Black Panther (T’Challa)
As Wakanda’s king, T’Challa symbolizes strength and resilience, facing depression from leadership’s weight and his father’s loss.
The Flash (Barry Allen)
Barry Allen’s speed and quick wit, along with his scattered tendencies, make him relatable to those with ADD.
Cyborg (Victor Stone)
Cyborg grapples with self-doubt due to his transformation, offering a narrative of overcoming insecurities.
Scarlet Witch (Wanda Maximoff)
Wanda, with her complex emotions and idealization of her relationship with Vision, is relatable to those who romanticize relationships.
What is your superpower?
What flaws make you feel like you can't be a better version of yourself?
If you’re a fellow life coach, I hope this encourages you to stop seeing yourself as an impostor. You are a real-life superhero, capable of making a big difference in the lives of others.
If you’re looking for a life coach to help you through a transition, know this: we are far from perfect, but we can empathize with your struggles and help uncover underlying truths.